As I see It

Perfection is the word every family member, parents or Siblings looks for in their own young family members. Many times I hv heard there were close family friends and my brothers friends, parents asking about me. The reason My Older Siblings are cultured and apreciate Values , so Those norms abd Values I adopted from them and families bringing up.What the real situation that I observed. from the young ones in love especialy my own Siblings spouces.Few not good at managing family expences. few not good in cooking, one was spending luxuriously, one was life long living in their own dream world by enjoying all her husbands hard earnings without any effort. Their kids were fed the best food, the best clothings were the kids wearing and every year several times goes on vacation. with their children.All of them were great gurus and Siblings until they found or attach to their spouces.NOT BOTHERED ABOUT own sisters misserabLe life , hardship, nothing was bothered. Everything se...

Famy abd Love these two manthras being a wralon a woman who is tbe most deldish in the world ciuld be when coning to easy money and finances without eorling earning, swindling clise gamiky memvers hard earned money, husbands, mother inlaws, sisters, brothers abd rgem her oqn chikdren fur few yeaes only...by creati g ciybtkess of sutuations and dramas. probably her sramas are not so effective to stimulate orhers. so tb he brorhers n suaters of her husbandv

A woman Conquered her husband, mother inlaw and her relatives for 20 years. Her only brother life long. But a new comer in her family, her younger brother inlaws wife, flew away with her husband after only 5 years of knowing the husbands family. migrated to a new land n.live happily. discarted all her husbands relatives and Siblings. Lately this selfish womans Daughter inlaw jouned her husband to one week ago in a neighbouring Country. She managed to stop her daughter to join her hubby in near by country, but failed to make her son visit the family when his aunt passed away. All her continues dramas which her son was believing, though everything was created non stop by his mom n her sisterand eldest daughter. The funniest story is for 33 years she has been trying her best to separate her brother from his wife and children. But every attempt she faces the loss, of her hubby, her father, her mom, her brother inlaw for ever. once her daughter left her for some time. Now she fails t...

Missery means one is forced to a situation, he or she is not willing or not compatible with . Missery means when you are treated vv badly, you are not bothered by the man you are married, but his sister creates continuesly dramas and pulls your husband n missuse his goodness for hwr selfishly.. when you were treated badly and not bothered by the man you are married Missery means when the older siblings in tne absence of your parents take charge of your life and play with your life and future. Missery means when.you are forced or ordered by ur older ones to take responsibikity of the fily when.you are only 14 years old. Missery means, in the presence of educated older Siblings, and in the absence of parents a teenager is not given chance to study or to pursue what she likes in her life... Missery means when a wife is needed in the family only for her earnings.her welness , health her likes, her emotions nothing is given preference.

      Giving away babies for childless parents means its a good life for the baby. But there are relatives with several children adopting their close relatives children. Raising the adopted child because their own children hv grownup but as the child starts growing the child is raised as a maid. given.only Primary education which is free. no new clothes , no clothing, no visiting. cant hv friends, no entertainment but do all the house work cleaning and washing. No celebration in their life.Only the food prepared in the house given to her.When she grows up as an adult. She falls in love n her family was against her wish and she drinks pesticide n warded. This Continues Several times.Many times she was proposed by some admirers the family refused to marry her off. Her life continued as a maid untill the child she raised, her cousin sisters daughter, got married. Even for that wedding n reception, she didn't attend because no one brought her to those functions. At the ...

This term suits well for anyone who lives well n easy with others or their relatives or their spouces hard earned money. Parasites never , ever worked hard, Never come across hardship or missery but life long live with others sweat and blood. These type of people are vv disgusting human livings , never apreciate or never feel Thankful for the good life they are living.Anyone sane never live such a shameful life. Countless of insane human beings are loitering in the society n such group is being spoon feed by their close family members. such group of people are not ashamed of the life they live... Such parasites even tortured their own fathers by locking them in his house and prevented him from mingling with others so people cant find out their torture. One family was Continuesly facing countless of misseries. I advised the chidren to perform Pithru pooja or Thanam,but they were running away from me after I told them about pithruthosam, because they were...

My dad was a fault finder with National electricity Board as long he was alive. This was uttered by my mom, to any one who cimes to our house asking about my dads profession after his death. This has been sewn insude my mind. But after exactly 12 years aftwr my fathers death , I was proposed by my brothers favourite family n close friwnds fievtheir relatives Son. My answer was no , no, no and never. The older ones fecided and fuxed everything with out my concern. Though I didnt like theb' boy of their Choice , the reason , my orevious experince of observing myncjildhood friends sister inlaw married her close relative n was not realy liked by her coliques because hexqas a school ckerk. How the Tamil school Teachers responded to her because her hubbybwas vv good looking man ,where she was not equal or notb etter looking .. The fault finder came into my life again but in the firm of an agressive, arrogant , abusive man in fewbyears od marriwd life. Thw fault finder tb...

BEING OVER BURDENED AND DISTURBED EVEN In THEIR HouSE BY VISITING WHEN VERY SICK. NOT BEINGB EMPATHETHIC BUT GIVEing EcTREEMElY STRESSED WOrK TO CERTAIN staff means, in human and seldish, plus heartless.. Ignorance and negligence is unempathethic these are the criterias and cultures im eco experiencing since I joined Secoundry school..Human beings, being extreemist going beyond their limits to harm n make use of ones good nature n generocity. blinded by their surrounding, which has harmmed the innocent educators who goes to the institution to feed n share education n knowledge to the younger generation.

Liquer and gambling , these both are against any religion. Those with religious or basic religious family back ground will never go near these satans. The Sinners are the ones who gambles others income n happiness in the name of liquer shop and gambling centres. These both brings counutless of income or money. But destroys happines and welbeing of other families. I experience these my self when I observed my husbands distant relatives and their close family members were being punished by the almighty, when these husbabd n wife pair choose a bisness that destroyed Countlesss of families. Some fathers take their hard earned money to these gambling centres finishes all their salary just in oneday by gambling non stop. Such woman and man punished by God vv badly untill they cant turned bck to the Sined life which brought countless of non stop misseries to the man n woman who practised it.

Joining Secoundry School in rural district, the experience is realy incredible and unacceptable.. The other side of grass is always green, this is proven after I started Teaching in Rural Secoundry School. The primary school is one of the most conducive n well equiped with the best classrooms n students emotional and learning level.

Scorpios nature is to sting. Among human beings countless of scopions are living in the form of human beings. Scorpions knows only to sting n.nothing else. Either one do good or bad a Scorpions nature is to sting n sting continuesly.Human Scorpions are unable to justify good and the bad, they are short Tempered and easily Uttered words that could hurt any ones feelings, when they are dissapointed or frustrated. Living with human scorpions are a karma. Either good or bad, they only know to take, take and take non stop frm the person who trust them n surrender their life completely.. Living with a human scorpion is tolerating , tolerating and tolwrating without nothing in return...

     year 82 was an unforgetable year in.my.life, because most of the time I was in Ipoh staying with my brother n sister inlaw attended Tailoring class,learnt Type writing, joined athletic training team. studied in MHS which I did not like at all...but meeting certain Teachers such as Veteren late teacher Mr.Bala Subramaniam, The late MUSU Maniam n Mrs Kasinathan..Mrs Kasinathan is a widow, in late 50 ies staying with her youngest daughter two sons already working. The youngest girl was one year my junior n.we used to sit n.study together in Teluk Kurin Ipoh House. Both their house n.my brothers house were too close. the climate was too chilled n the early mornings too cold n we were shivering.i wore my brothers thick jersey, Uma wrapp her self in a thick blanket..around 5 am Umas mum Mrs Kasinathan prepared hot Idli with chutni n sambar for breakfast, n i was treated with steming idli, Chutni, sambar n hot coffee . which was the best breakfast, in the eatly cold mornibg...

Mothers as they aged, only the daughters are capable of taking care of them n not the daughterinlaws.Something very sad about a mother n her health level is, when the mother falls55tt sick or unable to walk or move around, the new comers in the family, especially the dauhgter inlaws are not capable or not willimg to take care of them.. Many hv neglected n left their mother helpless, when the mother falls sick. The mothers Children only find faults or leave the aged mother.Many neglected, mothers hv died for no reason because the daughter inlaws unable to cooperate or to look after their mother inlaws. Countless of mother inlaws died due to the un healthy mind which is not cultured or grown up Children.When a mother is healthy and steady even at late age , she contributes non stop for her children and her family. this continues life long. she wants only the best and healthy meals for her kids..

Growing without parents is something not easy.Kids are protected by their parents n the family members while they are growing. But those forced by their parents to work at very young age are the ones who have been pampered by their parennts.Such pampered Individuals seems to over rule the family and try their best to prove that they want and can be parents only for a vv short period. The ending is really painful for the Victimized young ones who hv been overprotected and not given priority to choose or decide a life they wish to live. Blindly such unfortunate young ones good deeds and manners misaken and taken for granted by their own Siblings. A child just need a parent not too many parents, too many means its a mess. too many of them are just too many cooks who spoil the soup , or the childs future. No body can be a parent of a child other than their own parents. Even poor parents will try their best to educate a child as the child wants or wishes, but other...

First parents are the one who need to be trusted for a better future.Either the mother or father. Their absence is something, not be be missed.. Certain families are without parents and the older ones play the role of parents of teens, they decide everything from A to Z regarding the childs future. when too many older Siblings are there. The child need to listen to everyone regarding the place to stay.The future , education and life matters. Missery is the only experience , the individual encounter in life, lifelong. Nomad this is the only life pattern the individual practice in life to overcome the misserable situations, the individual has been facing. Living a Nomadic pattern in career helps such individuals to overcome the hard or uneasy situations created by others. escapism has been part of life in such individuals handing their situations. As years pass by tbey are used to the life which they never dream of or never think of. Even misery and misfortunes ...

Every moment,you join us during your break was something Cheriched by me. Those days your presence was felt as Devine . Each n every time you smile, my bored hours and hectic hours all chased away. We have'not talked much but we studied our selves. Your visit was something that make me feel cool and joy. The smile on your face is somethung rare. Why hv you been so silent, The only person I like very much and I adore is you.When you came with that aunty who wore ball room gown, and followed you. It was too much,,and irritating. I was irritated on that day and unable to welcome you, whoevwr in that situation who have gone thru the same situation will know how it feels to be..in that Situation. you had the chance to tell about your feelimgs or your emotion.why did you isolate your self all of a sudden, after family found a boy for me. why you wre Silent all these while My older Siblings, did everything as they wish. They never ask my Opinion abt my future. ...

   Dear Thiru, its been almost 34 years since You left forever. Many of my siblings being a reason why I cant remove or delete your memories from my heart.           I like you so much. The first time you spoke to me was, when you told me about my form 5 result in Ipoh, at Lahat road Quarters. First I knew that you like me very much. your smile and the stories your beautiful eyes were telling me something , That awaken my heart. No one has shared such beautiful and warm smile to me.         Even when im alone i cherish the moments you were visiting our house during break . I dunno how it feels to be in love, but experience it every moment you visited me and smiled at me. Once we all went to watch Cinema on 3 bikes. I was with you on your bike . It was a plan by the older ones, to create a close moment for both of us. But we both maintain our good n modest nature. My marriage was not something plann...

Marriage is Combination or meeting of two hearts. In reality those who hv parents decide how their life should be and whom they should find and settle in life or whom they should get to know better. Marriages are arranged by the So conservative Older siblings seems to be a combination of two people to live together life long. Such human beings giving priority to their society and Community but not bothered about the feelings of the young family member who is yet to get involved in family life, the younger ones plea, begging and cries seems like a waste and no one is ready to listen.A girl has told her decissions about her thoughts vv clearly to her family members, when they refuse to listen, her tears were shedding, n explaining her situation, but the stubborn older siblings behave like a Wild Cow or Bixon by ignoring her tears.. Siblings wants everything just as how they want it. Such heartless human beings being siblings in, families without parents.. With...

Every individual has experinces, either good ,bad , disgusting or sweet moments. At times the first experience,which we get remains in our heart life long,either good or bad. To like someone, to hate someone based on the experiences one gets. Religion, believes, faith n trust seems not worth applying in our life when we hv been cheated by our own stuborn siblings. A terrible odour from some ones body , disliked by the person close to him or her. Attitude, behaviour, and believes plus the sense of belongingness, are something mahes one like or to be ckose to the person who posses those qualities.

No one is perfect, including us.Somehow we try our best to be the respected human human being accepted by others. Everone has theur best and flops. We accept orhwrs as tbey ate, but the goos nature of us not suppose to be bulliwd or plated od or nis used by others. Several disgusting odd situations were created by not those born and raised in slums but by a girl who was bien tp a edycated father n was raised as a free girl, by lettimg her stayin in hostel even though, her parents lived in a Conducive home. The histel life failed to teach hwr tbw vasic norms n simple Culture. A preuni educated girl due to her. mentality later joined as a clerk and retired as a clerk. Her inner or culture was exibited during a charity dinner , where the Politicians and peoples leader, attended the function. After the main Speakers speech dinner was served frm table to tables. This lady started her acting during dining hours. She took the left overs on her plate n started fill...

This topic might surprise or make anyone to think. Butbwjen simeone Continuesly many many times misused by theur own blood. Tjats the worst experience one can take with them. Sweet yakjs n cintinuesky prasinf someone is to cheatcertain individuals and to bully them. Thevsame individual qel planned theur futurw, nit bitheted what will happwn to any one, as long they live well n protected. Those who hv been Victimize by certain selfish people hte to mingke or orevwnt tjem selves frm Docializing or to meet any of theur food fruends or their family friends. I snt beluwve in easy life n eady monwy, all rhese are the blood of people who hc beem cheated by the misers. As long there are people who can be bullied, by others , the bullies will keep on Conquering the weaker ones..

Year 1983 is the first year in my life ,I started to Serve in a Tamil school. Most of the estate Tamil schools in Malaysia performing vv badly in English and Malay. Both of these subjects taught by Teachers of other races. The rural schools mostly performed very badly in English and Bahasa Melayu. No one bothered about this situation. its vv Common , that rural school has only Temporary Teachers Teaching language subjects. Many schools were without English and Malay Teachers. I was dissapointed with the school n admind system n the Teaching hours, which hardly benefit the students. If the Teaching hours are quality, there wouldnt be a problem for the students to pass in these subjects. So offer my self as a Nomadic Teacher and serve , teach , guide n mould the students in English ans help these kids tob e a competent student as well as in studies and in Cocurricular matters. My effort reached the kids n.make them to like this subject very much.. Im very happy t...

In most of families with out parents or in the absence of Parents the older siblings play or carry out the role of parents. in this situation, the younger ones likes or interest or aims in life no one botheres to know or listen to the crying eyes or their plea. They want to be great parents they want their kids to hv luxury n easy life, no matter how they perform in school. These parents give the maximum luxury n experience, to their Children.Isnt it funny, they have been vv strict with their Siblings. Never give them Chance to talk, or to share , or voice out their view. But gives maximum freedom n luxury n spoil their life by feeding them Continuesly.... Their act is worse than a miser. Close their heart to own siblings but extreemly generous to their kids..Untill others envy them not only that but telling proudly about the new luxury Car bought for their Children. The thing both husbabd n wife lack in their life is religious views. Both of them posses vv hi...

New Comers in family bring along Vibes either good or bad Vibes. They can be inlaws either, sister inlaws, brother inlaws, daughter inlaws or Son inlaws. Pets also belongs to this category of New Comers.Pets Presence is most cherished by all n its vv rare, hate or Complicated Situations created by these pets. When a brother who is an achiever gets married and a new comer enters the family means its vv different. As far as I come thru these situation, The newComers especially the young ones try to dominate the family n the people in the family he or she joins as a new member. Particularly when the inlaws personal hobbies or interest being interfered by the so called new Comer, which creates ample of uneasy among the family members. The worst is a school drop out inlaw , choose wedding as a solution to fulfill all her dreams thru marriage.Though her family back ground was not as equal as the boys family but her aims n dreams in life were as high as mountai...

Love is something magical for girls who grew up in normal family . But it's something alien to girls those who hv been burdened with family responsibilies at v young age , as young as 14 years old.I belong to the 2nd Category. Though my brothers n sisters on and off, fulfiling my daily school expences n getting basic things for the house. It's not easy to care a sick mom , taking care of a baby neice, taking care of the house, attended school , performed well in school feild events . But boys tend to be not bothered about all these chores. Their love life seems vv important to them. Though I had v good human beings same profession with me tried his best to make me like him, but never aproached me directly.But went all out his best to convince me through his friends, who adored me n madly in love with me. I was not ready for anything, i was not able to make decissions. Though One Was trying his best by sending his family members to my hou...

    This word seems like a manthra to anyone who lives in their own world life long n dominates others especially their own bloods and life partners.       Since young i'm used to listening lots of comments mostly irrurayws or annoyfw long by certain close family memberss me or makes me feel a me feel uncomfortable words about me to others . Though I  have Two older sisters who got married when I was 13 n another One when I was 15.None of them teach or guided me about cleaning  ,cooking or handling family matters. Somehow I managed to learn everything my self by errors.        The woman who we're after men married n seettled in life, many of them good at managing finaces, but not good or not learnt about basic cooking of delicacies or sweets. Few hardly learnt to peel eggshells, or to prepare tradisional or culture delicacies of certain festives delicacies or sweets of their own religion..  after seeing, mingling n learning abo...

 Year 5 n year  Six of my primary school days we're , something memorablw in my life. Every singlday was a , a incidents or event day.         School hours d vv short n nothing much we learnt accept playing football, memorising peoetry. Gardening was part of school hours, and recess Time something we look furward to taste various types of Sweet porridge, cakes n ice creams. Sweet porridge 10 Cents s perbowl . Ice cream was 10 Cents which need is to leave school Compound n run across school feild n.kain to to get chiiled Frozen mung bean porridge ice creams.Which was sold by house wives at police quarters. Cendol ice my gbean ice we're the popular ones .

The sweetest years of Teaching in my life means, Teaching the PreUni students. Though The Coodinator of PreUni group purposely, set bigger number of students for me , which consist of 60 students perclass . Her classess we're only 23 students but my classes, we're purposely created bigger number of students, where I was Teaching 60 Plus lower form n 60 Plus upper form students. Her classes we're only 4 classes each consist of 20 Plus students.Though I realized the situation created for me, very calmly sportingly n happily I accepted those classes and enjoy my Teaching hours with the students Shared maximum Teaching n sharing of knowledge. Unt ill my students group was the only group in that Schools history to join tertiary education in bigger numbers. Almost 120 students frm upper 6 classes got the chance to study in Local University. Never ever before such huge number of PreUni students went to university. What else a Teacher needs...other than seeing her stude...

 My Teaching hours in rural Secoundry Schools vv rich with lots anda loads of exposures.  I really enjoyed my Teaching hours, though the adult educators, continuesly created uneasy n and unhealthy Teaching environment fire.     It's quite normal to see the girls fighting almost everyday in class when other class Teachers are not in the class. When I asked the other lady Teachers the reason for the fights. I was told that several girls going after the same boy . Telling that particular boy belongs to them n their special friend. The incidents, i mean the fights we're serious.Girls pullinf out the others scarf , kicking them hitting , and using harsh  words . To these girls the One boy seems like everything . The utmost .. vv funny. Several girls frm broken families who we're staying in hostel , started smoking, in the toilet, several Times I caught them, red handed, such Sweet , soft suple complexion n vv beautiful girls living with their aunts vv faraway frm par...