Growing with out parents in the custody of older siblings

        Human beings vary in many ways, whether friends, relatives or own siblings. At times they behave strangely and their expectation is very high. What i saw and learnt from one of my older siblings is that he missed most of his school life and childhood days, Yet he was performing his duty to his older sisters obediently by fulfilling all their needs. Something very strange about him that i observe was, he spent beyond his capacity for his older sisters for their wedding, but unwilling to motivate or  to encourage his younger sister to pursue  further studies even though she was qualified to get a place in the same government school to study preuni. She was forced and asked by her older brothers to repeat the exam which she was not willing to go for.

         
        The excuse he gave was “ I think you did not really performed, so better you repeat one more year the same ‘ SPM exam’ with no choice given, she unwillingly joined a private school and studied with the failures. After two months, she stopped going to school and studied on her own by going tom the public library and doing self study. She was adviced by one of her brother in-laws to go for further studies but none of her brothers supported or showed interest. All the brothers were far away, being a fatherless child, she was not given choice to voice out or say anything, everything was controlled by her brothers and sisters. Year end the same year she applied temporary teaching and she was posted in a rural Tamil school. Those days to get A2 and C3 is not easy. The   HM of the school when saw her results asked her why she didn’t pursue   preuni, since her result is good, she didn’t say anything even though she really wanted to study. She was needed in the family to raise her sisters kids and to take care of the house, since her mother was sick.

         

 She started teaching and at the same time took care of her sisters  kids, all her sisters and brothers were married in their early 20ies, as one by one all got married, she was left  with her  sisters children, Only two of her brothers postponed their wedding, because the younger sister, yet to get a proposal  and when her wedding was fixed one of her brother married his long time sweet heart who  lives  in the same  neighborhood.