Not every one's married life is perfect

    Perfectionist are the ones who being  human beings caused countless of chaos in the life of those who trust them. According to a girl. She surrendered her life to the older siblings , due to their compassionate , caring and loving atmosphere  created  by the older ones in the family in the absence of the parents. As the older ones started to hv their special ones in  their family , the older ones focus to better their life , so they ,they want to send off the younger girls by get them.married .

    No one willing to hear , the younger siblings request, plea, about marriage, A girl who was not given choice in anything related to life, studies, food, clothing, hobbies ,interest but was made a puppet I've by those whom she trusted., life long. She was not given a a chance or choice in anything in her life  to decide or to plan her future. 

   God has given her several, exceptional skills and skills, but there was no one to inspire her or to stimulate her to pursue what she was good at. She was treated  like a puppet.by all the older siblings , probably the good middle class life everyone was living , caused them to pursue their own dreams and nit bothered about the lines, emotions and talents of the younger ones. Though the school sent a representative to  the house to request the younger one to continue preuni in the same school without any fee.

    The dreamy ,Older Siblings ,few were married n few in the stage of dating n having special people in their life, at the same time there was no roof for her, mom n younger sister. All were squating with the married Older Siblings. The  older siblings who was life long , living away frm family, once found a life partner, wants  the mother n.yiunger siblings to join him, Do he shifted the family , mother,n younger sisters to the place he was working.

The main purpose ,she wants to get married n he need family when getting married. Two years he was Taking care of his mom n younger siblings. 1 year  his younger sister n mom were with him while one more younger sister stayed with his older sister, almost two years  he abd his wife were taking care of his mom n younger siblings.Thingsvwere not smooth, so he wants to please his wife , by getting transfer n move far away frm hus mom n other Siblings. 1 sister started working another sister completed form 5 or O level. No one willing to support the girls higher education , so both younger siblings fijnd job n started earning.

      One girl was a state level runner and a linguist, she was good in 3 languages . Though she was better than most of her friends who pursued pre uni with minimum qualification in Private School. She was invited by school admins to join preuni, the school representative spoke to the older Sibling  who was the guardian about the invite frm the girls School asking her to join ore Uni class . There was response or reply frm the guardian. The girl s timing in running at District level  was a new record.. No one bothers to know about this. 

    The two younger ones seems like a burden to the married one's, due to the passive  response n not bothered attitude of the guardian, regarding the girls higher  education or future.  The girl manage to get a temporary job n in few years worked so hard n manage to attend cources n upgraded her self, while this girl started earning, too many proposals ,were for her.She  approached politely n with respect ,but she was not ready to get married n said no..

 n she told these people  to find some one else, because she wants to pursue higher education. Seeing her reaction,her older siblings fixed marriage for her without her concern though she pleaded, begged her older sister and older brother who fixed her marriage n  not bothered about her likes ot taste, or her approval.. 

      A girl who was good in studies, athletics, school Teachers n friends favourite seems like a slave. A slavery life she was living. Slave's n refugees  are not given choice or chance.. Refugees do not stand any opportunity or chance. That's was the life, she was going thru, Few weeks after marriage her life was extremely happy though basic simple life she was living with her husband n, situation started to change frm beautiful loving life to misery with too many family members n relatives Interfereces in her married life. Life long it was a cursed life, missery but she turned it as a blissful moment for her babies whom she cared n spent time with .At home n in outdoor activities,  excursions with her children. Her husband's presence was zero with his kids. The only time was when he takes them fur long walks n hill climbing when the kids fall sick..he took them fur long walks n hill climbing since age 4 n 5 years the kids age.

   The only thing her husband share with his wife frequently n was the swearing which was used non stop n frequently. Every time he used those swearing the wife became so weak n helpless. A man respected by alot of people utter such words easily n as though chewing  nuts . Not even once he felt guilty ,bad or regretted for using those filthy words  n accusing the wife as bad woman or Bitch . Though she was hurt badly n he used those in the presence of the young kids. She just cried cried n cried, 

       She was beaten n many times she was injured. A girl forced to marry a stranger , was not given  chance to know the man she is going to marry, not even let her talk to him but strait away fixed a ROM   Educated Civilized human beings ,these are the people who were responsible for all the life long missery .she was going thru. A man expect only Sex from the woman he married, bought  for her food , talks sweetly n smiled when he need sex from her .

   According to this Victim every time her husband hv sex with her , she feels like being raped, the wound takes almost several days to heal. Before the next intercourse..

       With tears in her eyes she was telling, I begged to my older ones , to give me time at least few years, but they were stubborn. They refuse to listen, she says she cried n begged to them. But her cries , beggings n tears were like humor to the older ones. She said no one is to be blamed fir the situations she was going thru in her life Other than her own Older Siblings who were stubborn n being life long perfectionist, they want only the best as they feel n think , the Victims response not bothered. Shocking  heartless human beings ,thinks they know everything , because they think they are wel aware about the people they  are fixing, but in reality, they caused great damaged in the lives of innocent young people due to their adamant nature....

     The Victim  had plans to go to a new place or different state after completing her studies, but she did not hv any savings , because her older sibling  controlled n managed her salary fur the girls  future, without any income and a roof for her, she returned to her siblings house and stayed with the siblings family n in few months time married the person the engaged her to n settled in life. The worst life she was living. Only 2 to 3 hours sleep daily. Her husband , after work leaves the house n comes home  midnight. She was alone with her children waiting n waiting.

     When she conceived her babies , her husband was not around her, her husband came home  to sleep n leaves the house, comes home fur lunch n after , office goes out n bck home mid night or 3 or 4'O clock in the morning.lufe was in the worst, but she worked so hard by giving only the best to her babies in the mids of missery life...Gid was with her 24 hours . She believed. That's a miracles. God was there with her where ever she went thru good Samaritan's. Thru her profession, at  the places she was   working . 

   The victim said that no one should go thru , wht she went thru in her life before n after married. Only God  was with here all the time she thinks of him....

     What the girl  said or shared was difficult to digest. The experiences given by those in her life frm childhood days n after married life. Seems like emotionally affected human beings , hv been in her life as family and her new family ....